There is a big difference between analytical, controlling, ego driven people and their counterparts the lovers of life, who trust the universe, depend on their intuition and follow their hearts. I will try to present to you how both people behave and act so at the end you can decide to which group you prefer to belong and how you can change the way you look at life.

To begin with ask yourself, are you one of those people who go through life with your foot on the brake or your foot on the gas? In other words, do you go through life hesitating, cautious and fearful or open, enthusiastic and adventurous?

The first group of people following ego rules goes through life looking for what’s wrong and plan for trouble and unexpected turns. They only look at the surface of life and see obstacles. These people tend to fear life and to overcome their fear they become controlling, defensive and resistant. They obsess endlessly over the “how” of life: How will I make it? How will I meet someone who loves me? How can I make sure this is right for me? They are cynical, argumentative and wonder why life is tough and miserable. They are afraid to make mistakes and lose control.  The ego loves to suffer and such people starve their souls of the sweet, nurturing elements of life and don’t even know what nurtures their spirits. Soul-starvation makes them bitter, angry, and resentful.  

The other group following their gut feelings expects the best from life, plan positively, and are open to life’s gifts and opportunities. They love life and cannot have enough of it. They don’t say no to their heart and spirit, they listen to their inner guidance and expect the universe to help them everyday.  Intuitive people take the raw material life gives them and use their creativity to transform it into gold. When an obstacle appears in their life, they understand that it is the Universe’s way of redirecting them closer to their heart’s desire.  They see any change in their plans or unexpected setbacks as a time to grow. Life lovers have incredible charisma and charm; they draw people to them because they are positive. As Sonia Choquette says, “To become a lover of being alive, dip your cup into the river of life and sip its nectar joyfully, rather than turning your back on it. Nurture yourself by realizing what lifts your heart, tickles your funny bone, engages your curiosity, and stimulates your senses of wonder. Step up to life instead of running away from it; don’t postpone your fun because you have serious matter to pursue first.”

Love and trust are key to happiness. Although letting go might frighten your ego, the more you play and enjoy yourself the more you will raise your vibrations and attract good things. If you feel abandoned and unloved pursue life with gusto, Sonia adds. If you’re lonely start playing and trust many will want to play with you. No matter what you think you want, love is all you’re really seeking, so rather than wait for it to find, reach out and grasp it right now.

A final word of advice from Sonia, "Try soaring through the air on a trapeze, let go of the rules and grab on to spirit. There will be a brief moment when you will be cut free from the unknown, but in that moment, you will fly. It’s only when you don’t let go that you crash." Expecting support from the Universe will make you remember the truth of who you are; an invaluable and precious child of God not some lost and random nobody adrift at sea.

Personally, I am a life lover; I know that when you love life, life loves you back. Therefore, when you dive into it with exuberance and joy, life will reach out and enthusiastically embrace you. The more you love life by engaging with what feeds your soul, the more you spread the love around, and in doing so you heal yourself and others.

What will you choose?