I was feeling awful last month, I was unhappy, imbalanced, my intuition was warning me of bad vibes but I turned a blind eye to it. I was burnt out and I was absorbing the negative vibes of those close me. I allowed myself to listen to the gossip surrounding me and was swayed by others’ opinion. Trying to please everybody and neglecting myself. I was stuck in the rut, in a place I didn’t like to be and all I felt was alone and disconnected.

Have you ever felt in a rut, your feet stuck in the mud, unable to move forward, as if you are swallowed by your own hopelessness?

How do you usually react?

What situation in your life requires, healing, transforming, changing your perspective?

Moving forward and healing requires understanding or making meaning of what happened and why. It is transforming the decaying into something new, a rebirth. In order to regain my balance, I had to slow down, withdraw into my private space for a while, go within into the silence. Once I acknowledged my feelings and cooled off, awareness kicked in and I was able to understand the problem. I knew later that I needed to reach out to feel connected to regain my balance and all will be ok.

In order to transform difficult experiences into transformative ones this is what you can do: 

1.     Be there in the pothole and ask yourself, what word describes how I feel right now?

Naming your emotions helps you create a bridge between the feeling and the awareness.

For me in my experience the word was: Disconnected

Even if this might be hard for you, I urge you to really engage in the feelings the experience is bringing for you. Feelings are messages from our body, they are here for a reason, don’t ignore them.

2.     Decide where you want to be; name your destination.

My destination is the opposite of disconnected: Connected.

What is the opposite of the word you chose?

This will help you visualize where you would like to be if you were able to get out of the pothole. Even if it seems impossible right now you can use your imagination and take yourself to where you would like to go.

3.     Create awareness.

Looking at my two words, I see what happens when I isolate myself. I feel overwhelmed, overloaded with too much responsibility, and I collapse. The awareness for me is reaching out to others.

4.     Build a bridge.

What action can you take to get you closer to your second word? What baby steps can you take today to help you start moving closer to your goal.

I invite you to write down your words, your lesson and your action steps. This will motivate you in your transformation and help you reach your destination.